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How to be an Amazing mum when you just don’t have the time.

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I will never forget the day when we were visiting someone else’s house and Andrew, who must have been aged two or three at the time pointed to her ironing board that she was using and asked innocently "what’s that?" I remember babbling something about only ironing when he was in bed asleep but I don’t think she was convinced! The truth is I hate ironing and would  rather kill the ozone layer with my tumble dryer than stand all day getting rid of creases. And ironing is one of a long list of jobs that we, as mums, have to pack into a already crammed day. So when I recently came across a book by Tanith Carey called How to be an "Amazing Mum" when you just don’t have the time I grabbed it off the shelf. The subtitle is the Ultimate Handbook for hassled mothers  Basically its a book packed full of  short cuts and tried and tested advice on containing mess, quick lunch boxes , my favourite, faster laundry and other things. You won’t find it all helpful to your own lifestyle but I like the woman’s thinking – we all need more time on the important things like spending quality time with our kids so try this. WARNING – this isn’t necessarily a cost saving book as a lot of her time saving devices cost money but don’t let that put you off.

Obviously if ,as you read this, the beds are made and the lounge isn’t covered in lego then this isn’t for you but for the rest of us – it could save you some precious minutes of sanity.

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How to Create a Culture of Accountability in Your Home

How to Create a Culture of Accountability in Your Home.

Spending so much time together over the summer holiday has tested my boys tolerance of each other to the limit! We have had both insults and punches hurled already and we are only half way through! And next week we shall all be in a tent so time alone will be even more difficult! (Am so praying for sunshine!)

Reading this article reminded me of the importance of reminding them that they are responsible for their own actions and reactions. Dan and I constantly remind the kids they are responsible for their own belongings. Now its time to emphasise that they are responsible for their behaviour too.

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National Family week

Last week (Half term for those of us with kids!) was National family week and to celebrate it, the organisers have launched a new website, dedicated to family stuff. At you will find ideas for great days out, family activities and lots of imagecompetitions too. There are craft ideas and  printables for children to colour, and while your little ones are busy, you can check out the online version of the family time magazine. Enjoy!

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The Homework Battle: How to Get Children to do Homework

The Homework Battle: How to Get Children to do Homework

I read the above article recently and thought it would be useful to share. If, like me, homework can be a weekly battle, you may find some solutions. My main issue is trying not to feel responsible for their homework or doing it for them. One particularly challenging saturday morning my 9 year old reminded me that it was his home work!

The challenge comes, I think ,when you know they can produce better. I have found on these occasions, a quick chat with the teacher helps. They can then address it from a different perspective. We are, after all, in a partnership with them in bringing our kids.

Anyway, click on the link above, and let me know how you get on. Here’s to harmonius homework!

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Balanced Parenting

The Control Freak Parent vs. The Pushover Parent: Why Neither Works.

In lots of areas of life we are called to be “Balanced“. We need to have a balanced diet, a balanced work and family life, and balanced finances! And I have been thinking a lot about being a balanced parent. As regular readers of my blog know, I read a lot about parenting. And what I am finding is that a lot of the books have some core things in common but I never agree totally with everything the author says. I just read a book recently which inspired me to hold my children more accountable for their actions but I didn’t agree with everything the author said. That is why the article above appealed to me. It talks about the two extemes of parenting. – the control freak and the pushover. Beware – reading this article can lead to a need for repentance! On reading the descriptions of both styles of parenting, I can only conclude I have two extremes, depending on what buttons my children push at the time! Luckily this article gives some ideas of how to become more balanced. It doesn’t give you all the answers, but as I said at the beginning no one thing does. As the article states

“Your child needs you to think for yourself and express your thoughts, beliefs and values. This helps him do the same for himself later.”

So click on the link above andsee how balanced you are…….

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Calm Parenting: How to Get Control When Your Child is Making You Angry

Calm Parenting: How to Get Control When Your Child is Making You Angry

Read this article on one of the Parenting websites I subscribe too and thought it was amazing. It really gives you some practical ways to help you stay calm.

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Family Fragrance

Facing a New Year is always a good time to start something new. We often make resolutions to improve our health or job or relationships, but do we ever apply it to our parenting? I hope you have been listening to the free downloads from Heritage builders. I have just finished listening to no. 6 on Family fragrance. This looks at the way we run our homes and the atmosphere we create for our children. The authors use the acronym A.R.O.M.A. which stands for AFFECTION – RESPECT – ORDER – MERRIMENT – AFFIRMATION, giving practical ways in which we can encourage these things in our home. I sooo want my kids to enjoy coming home and being at home, even when they are married and have homes of their own. So, one of my new years resolutions is to look again at these 5 elements and see how I can improve the atmosphere – the AROMA – of our home.

One of the ways I have been trying to bring more order is by getting things ready for school the night before, trying to avoid running around at the last minute for book-bags, recorders ,homework and shoes! We are two days in and have been on time both mornings! The other thing I want to introduce is with regard to respect. The author talks about how she introduced just one golden rule to her class room as a teacher, which was “ do unto others as you would have them do to you” . I think that will be a good house rule to make as you can use it to cover respect of each others belongings, talking nicely to one another and even being helpful to each other.

For more practical ways to have a happy home take a listen to the Family Fragrance download. Here’s to a “Happy New Year” and “Happy homes” everywhere!

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